How to Spice up the Sex life in A Long Term Relationship – Crucial Sex Tips for Men in A Relationship

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Regardless of if you’re having sex with someone for the first time, or if it’s the 1000th time, you can and should use everything at thepleasurekeys.com to spice up your sex life. After all, amazing sex skills lead to amazing sex, regardless of if you are in a relationship or not.

However, besides general techniques and concepts, there are some specifics to sustaining a great sex life in a long-term relationship. In this post on how to spice up sex in a long-term relationship, I will explore these. And also give you plenty of actionable material that you can use to spice up your sex life.

First, I’ll take a look at some of the underlying reasons why the spark may fade in a long-term relationship. After this, it’s time for solutions and some great sex tips for men in relationships.

Biological Reasons Why the Spark in The Sex May Fade in A Long Term Relationship

That the spark in the sex life fades in longer relationships is actually not unusual. One of the reasons for this is that men have a natural instinct that makes them require sexual variation. This, however is a prehistoric drive and nothing that you as a man need to give in to.

Another reason is that the concept of pair bonding often ends after about seven years. This was the time required before children could manage on their own in the prehistoric era. Hence that the spark fades can often be due to natural biological instincts, and doesn’t necessarily mean that you love your woman less. Besides the biological factors, there are of course also other factors that could contribute.

Thus there are various reasons for the problem. The solution is choosing not to let these affect your sex life. Something that is best done actively.

The Importance of Being Proactive

Everything in life moves in cycles, even sex, so that the intensity of a sex life goes up and down is not so strange. If you accept this, there’s no need to become frustrated or worried when you experience a less sexually intense period in the relationship.

However, if you feel that the periods of lower intensity become longer and longer, and seem to last forever. It’s definitely about time to deal with the problem. And even before this happens, I highly recommend you start working proactively.

Statistics actually suggest that individuals who think that sexual satisfaction is attained from hard work and effort, experience both higher relationship satisfaction and higher sexual satisfaction. They also have partners who are more sexually satisfied.

Thus having a continuous spark in a long-term relationship, is in most cases, nothing that comes automatically. Instead it’s something you work actively to achieve, both every day and by spicing up the sex every once in a while. It will definitely be worth doing the work.

By following the tips below, you’ll both spice up the sex in your long-term relationship and make the spark stronger:

Let Your Woman Hear How Sexy She Is

man telling woman sexy things

Make sure to often tell your woman exactly what it is that you like about her. She will then be happy, gain self-confidence, as well as feel sexy and loved. And thus become an even more beautiful woman and take even better care of herself.

In addition to the above, what you keep on saying and repeating, will reinforce your perception and actually also make you think that she’s hotter.

All day Foreplay – The Everyday Sex Life Spice

All-day foreplay is a term that describes everything that you can do during the day to make your woman feel that she is in a sexual, loving, emotionally intimate, and romantic relationship with you. For example: kissing her with passion, stroking her hair, acting physically loving and affectionate, setting up a romantic dinner etc.

The list of things you can do is really endless so I can’t list them all here, but in The Master  Key, you’ll find an array of suggestions.

You should incorporate as much all-day foreplay as you can in all the everyday interactions between you and your woman. This way, you create a fantastic, beautiful and dynamic relationship. Something that also will affect your sex life very positively.

The Importance Of Seduction in A Long Term Relationship

seducing your woman is highly important to spicing up your sex life

No matter how long you’ve been together, you should never forget to seduce your woman. Unfortunately, it’s common for men in relationships to neglect seduction, or think they don’t have to seduce their partner.

Seducing, however, is very important for the longevity of an amazing sex life. Not only will your woman find you more attractive when you seduce her. But when she finds you more attractive and notice that you’re actively doing things to be more attractive. She will want to make herself more attractive. Thus, both the spark and the attraction in the relationship will grow stronger.

Cultivate Your Masculinity

When you are in a relationship, it’s natural that you become more alike each other. Don’t let this happen. Cultivate and maintain your masculinity in the relationship. Your woman will then naturally cultivate more femininity to balance out the masculinity. As opposites attract, this will contribute to a stronger attraction.

A strong attraction in the relationship then equals a strong attraction in the bed, since the sex life after all also reflects the relationship.

How to Spice Up Sex in A Long Term Relationship by Doing Exciting and Different Things

a bondage kit will provide a nice spice to your sex life

Besides all the everyday things you do to make your sex life great, you should also, of course have fun by spicing up the sex life in different ways. Here are a few tips of fun things you can experiment with:

  • Start celebrating festivities with different sexual experiences, like for example implementing your woman’s fantasies, or romantic and sexual adventures in hotel rooms.
  • Experiment with sex toys. And if your woman is open to it you can give porn watching together a go.
  • Experiment with restraints and blindfolds. Either only one blindfold for your woman, or one for each of you. You can also try out other types of restraint products like handcuffs, or even ball gags if you want to take it a step further. And why not just decide on different restraint rules at times. For example, don’t allow yourself to use your hands in any way during an entire sex session, or maybe decide that none of you are allowed to make a sound.
  • Experiment with new positions. Even though you may feel as if you’ve already tried everything that’s out there, I’m sure there is some fresh stuff. Check out my posts on Women On Top Sex Positions, Pussy Eating Positions and The Best Sex Positions For hitting Her G-Spot to get some inspiration.
  • If you’re ready to take it a bit far out. I highly recommend you take a Tantra course or workshop together. It’s a great way to spice up sex in a long-term relationship. It will even open it up to a whole new world.

 Break Your Sex Life Routine

If your sex life becomes routine, you should also try to break the routine. Make sure to vary the sex rather than end up with routine sex at bedtime. As it’s so much routine and predictability involved in that kind of sex, it may actually contribute to the fading of the spark in your sex life.

Try to completely stop with your sex routine and experiment with all other occasions and places that are possible. Both during night and day, as well as all the crazy exciting “taboo” situations when you actually “shouldn’t” have sex.

Sex Fast – A Counterintuitive Way to Spice Up Sex in A Long Term Relationship

One way to break sex routines and spice up sex in a long-term relationship can even be to take a sex fast. You can set up different rules for the fast and decide how long you want it to go.

However, continue to be intimate with each other and build love in the relationship during the fasting. You can also decide to do a few teasing and make-out sessions during the fast.

 Experiment With Your Ejaculation

If you feel a diminishing sexual interest in your woman, you should try to have sex with her without ejaculating. Since many men become tired and sexually uninterested by ejaculating, non-ejaculatory sex may actually affect your sex lust and sex life in a great way. And if you really want to take it a step further, coming without ejaculating is a big thing in Tantra.

It will definitely make your sex drive more intense and spice up your sex life.

Spice up Your Sex Life by Becoming an Amazing Lover

In My Ultimate Guide To Become an Amazing Lover, you can learn more about how to have orgasms without ejaculation. There are also tons of techniques, mindsets, and concepts that will bring a whole new and exciting dimension to your sex life.

In the guide, you will learn how to fuck your woman in ways she’s never been fucked before, something that surely will provide a lot of spice. Recently I’ve been getting lots of great feedback from couples who have used it, so I highly recommend that you check it out.

I’m sure your woman will love your new sex skills.

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Joe is a sex consultant with years of experience in helping men to improve their sex life. He is also the creator of the website "ThePleasureKeys.com" and the author of The Master Key - the modern man's ultimate guide to improved sex skills.


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